Welcome And Weekly Reset

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All right now. We're back. We're back here in the sweet spot. It is self-care Saturday. We conduct. Yes, sir. KG. Thank you for the week, brother. Appreciate you. Appreciate you spending time with me.

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Appreciate you, man. I appreciate you.

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We're doing this, man. We're doing this, man. We've been hanging out. We've been hanging out here at the sweet spot. We made moves on Monday. We took action on Tuesday. We were all about the winning on Wednesday. We we tackled trust. We trusted the process on Thursday. And we figured out how to close some tabs on Finish Strong Friday. Amen.

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Love it, love it, love it.

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Recovery Is The Reason

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right. So look, after a week of grinding and striving and learning and doing all the wonderful things we all do during a week, there must be a place, even in sports where I work, there's got to be recovery. And I gotta tell you, KG, it's not until I started working in sports that I really paid more attention to this idea of recovery, watching these elite athletes and elite performers, yourself included, on both tips, because you are both a martial artist and a performer, in addition to all of what you do, watching how high performers spend time in recovery. And also watching those that didn't prioritize recovery, how quickly they burned out versus their colleagues or their teammates who put the time into recovery, be it the cold tub, whatever it is, going into the sauna, getting the stretching done, doing all of the right recovery tools. And what I realized is that for some of us, and for myself included, recovery was kind of like a reward for having worked really hard. And what I'm realizing, KG, is that recovery is the reason that you can do the work. It's not just the reward for the work, it's the reason you could come back. And so I'm wondering when I say self-care to you, KG, what comes to mind as a definition, or what how does that strike you?

Micro Healing And Real Self-Care

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When you say self-care, I think about I think about healing, right? But I think about intentional micro healing, right? Am I talking about healing from you know things of my childhood or a broken relationship? I'm thinking about week-to-week healing, right? What are the things that I took on that is not mine to hold on to? And what are the what what's the energy that I've expended that needs to be replenished? And for me, that happens a few ways, right? One is through uh therapy, spending time with loved ones, martial arts, um, and then just little self-care things, right? So my wife, if I asked her to give me a massage, I'm gonna get three minutes of a mediocre rub. So I have this real, I went and I invested in the best massage gun that I could possibly invest in, right? And that's part of my self-care, right? I I massage myself, right? Um and in being in nature, as well as expressing my creativity in a way that is important to me. Not for problem solving for a business owner, not in support of constituents, but using my creativity for me, for storytelling, for exploring self, for journaling, for reflection, etc. Those are the things that I think of um when you mention self-care.

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Yeah, that's quite a bit, man. That's quite a bit. Wow, so you have a massage gun. That's a good man. I get it. I get it, I get it. Yeah, well, look, I I really appreciate the fact that he talks about healing as part of the self-care. That's a very important dimension of it. Because we have to have these microhealing moments. And as I said to you before, like, if we're not paying attention, this is going to be seen as

Scheduling Recovery Like Training

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some kind of a nice-to-have reward kind of thing that you kind of do and you you blow off. Like, do you have a set aside time? What I struggled with for a long time was actually having a set aside time for recovery. As not being an athlete or not being somebody who does like high performance and stuff like that, I I kind of just was squeezing it in wherever I could or wherever it fit. But what I'm realizing more and more is that this is a bit of a discipline, too, to actually set aside the time or the activities that I'm gonna do for when I'm going to do and I'm investing in my recovery. Do you do you have that kind of schedule?

SPEAKER_01 5:40

Yes and no, right? So by default, when you when you solicit professional help, right? If you have a therapist, right, you that has to be scheduled. You're not just, hey, call me when you want to call me. Right? So, you know, that is um specific and time-bound. And then martial arts is the same way, right? You you you train at a specific time where the studio is open and where other instructors are. So in that way, yes. But in terms of, you know, um writing or the other self-care um, you know, options that I mentioned, those are not as scheduled as they could or should be. Um, I do recognize that my best self is in the morning. I'm a morning person, right? So um one of the things that I want to be intentional about is reclaiming my morning, right? Spending time with God, but also spending time with myself for self-care. Um, but yes, plenty of room to um take that to the next level.

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I am definitely not a morning person. I make it happen. I've had no choice, if I had to become one, but I am definitely a night out. I am an evening person. Like if you if I could between like midnight and 3 a.m., I'm best. But that's

Chronotype And Energy Calibration

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when I should be asleep, right? That's but again, the chronotyping, that's that's what it is. I do better in the evening. And so one of the things we're doing with athletes now as part of understanding how to care for them and performance is to do a morning-evening scale where we look at what chronotype they are and then to tailor the activities to that. So if you're out there and you're listening, maybe it's a good idea to figure out what are you? Are you a morning type? Are you an afternoon or are you an evening? And determine where you may need to either pour more energy into the craft that you're doing, or where you might need to rest and recover in the other parts of the where you're not, right? So this is the kind of calibration that I think it should happen when you think about self-care, because you we are a self for which we're caring, and that self has a proclivity for mornings, for afternoons, for evenings, and I think getting to know ourselves is important. So outside of the okay, it sounds like you do a lot of things, right? And I want to wrap up with this. So you said that you do uh the uh martial arts thing. You also said something about uh you have the massage gun that you you he you're able to use uh on that. Did you also say get out of nature too? Because I thought I heard that.

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Yeah, I I love um hiking, um just just being around water, um, all those things I feel um are therapeutic for me. So yeah, I've taken in terms of martial arts, boxing, kung fu, akido, um uh right now taking Krav, which is mixed martial arts. So that again is what was that? Krav.

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Krav Magah, Krav Magah, Krav Magah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 9:18

Um so it's mixed martial arts, yeah.

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You know, um that's why I love hanging out with you because I always feel very safe. Like if we're out there, like I know I'm good, you know. Oh I can talk my way out of it, but you can fight your way out of it. This is really helpful to me.

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I don't want to fight anyone.

SPEAKER_00 9:37

I know you don't. Listen, you you gave us the wisdom, you gave us the sensei wisdom, uh I think of a few uh days ago when you said the best uh what was it, the best way to get avoid is to not be there in a fight, right? Like the best thing to do is just not be there so you don't get hit. Like, just don't be there.

Nature And Martial Arts As Therapy

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I love the idea as you as a black male sitting here talking to me that you are talking about your self-care, because that is something we as men of color have to pay attention to is how are we caring for ourselves, why is that important to us, and and um to understand that our longevity, our legacies are tied into sometimes the things that we consider very soft, which is the self-care. So if you could talk to men out there who might be saying, ah, this is BS, this is kind of like Mamzy Pan, ah, this is too soft, what would you say to brothers? Uh to well, yeah, let's just expand to men out there, because men in general, we tend to be these warriors and we tend to glorify just being hard and tough, and like this can sound very soft that we're talking about self-care right now. What would be your message to brothers and men out there who are uh maybe not as tied into self-care?

SPEAKER_01 10:55

Yeah, I I think it is, well, all the things that are important to you and that you are able to impact, if you're not here, you don't get to do those things. I think it's important that um as men, as we're expected to pour out, that you are intentional about the pour in, right? So I mentioned having a massage guard. I recognize that my my wife is gonna give me a three-minute resul massage, right? But we're talking about self-care. As soon

A Straight Talk For Men

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as I put the responsibility on someone else, it is no longer self-care. You have to take active responsibility and replenishing yourself in a way that allows you to show up your best self. Right? That is your responsibility, whatever it may be. Whether it be playing sports, watching a game, right? It is important that you take that time every single day, every at the latest, at the latest, every single week. Right, because it's if you don't do it, no one else will.

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There you go.

SPEAKER_00 12:24

There you go, 100%. And this is a great point you're making here, because that's right, and boy, oh my goodness, my wife Darcell is gonna love this episode. You know why? Because self-care, it's my responsibility. I know that's gonna resonate, and it but it's true, and it's a hundred percent true. And as men, like you talked about men, uh, we are we die earlier than women, and and the the facts are the facts, and part of it is that we do have to put energy back into ourselves and to really care for ourselves. So this is super important, and I really love how you you framed it for us uh on this self-care

Therapy, Expression, And Closing

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Saturday, K K. And God bless you, man, for for being so open and being so honest. You mentioned therapies another thing that we as men uh we shy away from and we need it so much. Women are so able to not to be cliche about it, but they're so able to talk and communicate. And it's been shown that being able to be expressed is tied into cardiovascular health and immune health and longevity. So when we become expressed and we become are able to uh speak what's inside of us and not only internalize, it's good for our self-care and good for our health. So I want to thank you, man. Um, I really do. You're you're amazing. So it is science, soul, and success here on this sweet spot. It is self-care Saturday. We've been talking to KG Kendall Glassby, who's gonna be back tomorrow to close out this week with us on Slowdown Sunday. Hey Kendall, thank you so much, brother. I appreciate it.

SPEAKER_01 14:13

You're very welcome. You're very welcome. Thank you for giving me the opportunity and being a part of my community. Amen.